‘I don’t feel like it tonight’, ‘today was stress and I need to rest’, do these phrases sound familiar? Are nights like that becoming quite recurrent? Is your sex drive suffering?
People are different and while there is no level of sex drive designated as ‘normal’, a low level of sex drive will anyway have you feeling, low. Say you find yourself in this situation, you will do yourself a great deal by trying to nib it in the bud by identifying what the problem is, so a solution can be found.
Take a look at the 10 most common factors that sabotage sex drive:
In the midst of modern life rumble and time-consuming activities, having to choose between a nice time under the sheets and an extra hour of sleep is quite a daunting task. Most times the latter is not only the easier but reasonable choice. Intentionally, setting aside at least a night every week, for a good time with your partner and sticking to the plan will go a long way toward improving your sex life. Do this regularly and you are on course to have an amazing sex life.
Most pills like contraceptives have a track record for inhibiting the production of androgens, a hormone that influences the degree of sexual fulfilment we derive from lovemaking. It’s a bit of irony, right? Where the thing you go to for pregnancy prevention during sex suddenly lowers your libido and makes you unable to enjoy your sex. This one thing that used to be of great help now becomes the enemy. Visiting a doctor for advice will help a great deal.
Having a bladder that gets hyperactive is not one of the best things that can happen to someone. Merely thinking about it can turn you off before you start. It results in a glitch in communications between one’s bladder and brain, causing the bladder to commonly release urine. Taking medications can solve but you should see a doctor before that since self-medication is not advised. Another option that can be effective is to visit the toilet before intercourse.
Deprived sleep is one of the factors that sabotage sex life the most for both genders. University of Chicago researchers discovered that less than five hours of sleep for men results in testosterone levels that are low, which equals to a low sexual desire in the bedroom. Experts state that women with drained energy as a result of deprived sleep will likely experience low sexual fulfilment. So if your sex life is on the decline, it may be time for you to start getting more sleep hours.
Body insecurities, for example; tiny boobs, flabby stomach, small penis, a large amount of hair on the back, butt, etc., is a sure bet for inhibiting sexual desire. Whether your self-consciousness leads to never getting naked at all or wanting to get naked only when the lights are off, taking your mind off those insecurities about your body and instead keeping your thoughts on the things you love about yourself is a huge step toward increasing your sex drive. Try to replace every thought about your body insecurities with a positive thought.
There are a couple of things that could the mood right for a wonderful night of amazing sex. Depression, mood swings, hot flashes and a dry vagina do not make the list. Lowered levels of estrogen which mean lack of flow of blood to the pelvic area, results in a dry vagina. That is what menopause brings. This means that sex has become painful no longer enjoyable. Using lubricants can be effective in the short term but you can also visit a doctor for other proven solutions like menopausal hormone therapy.
This is a bit ironic because alcohol is something we turn to when we want to feel good. But it can also drain the energy in the bedroom. Alcohol breath can be a downer for the most part. Drunkenness? Slobbering? Big downers! In men, alcohol intake usually results in erectile dysfunction. With this information, if you have difficulty trying to heat things up in the bedroom between you and your partner, you may do well to cut the intake of alcohol.
The passion and desire that comes with early couples appear to be replaced with fatigue and stress immediately the children arrive. It’s no news that training up a kid is a daunting and consuming task. It could spare no time and energy to keep up the fire that once burned between couples. Setting aside time, say a night every week after the children have gone to sleep (early!), to spend as a couple can help keep the fire burning. Make sure to keep your mind off the kids and chores to focus on yourselves. Do something interesting, make a meal together, see a movie together, anything to bring the fire back!
There’s a season in almost every relationship where partners are just temporarily disinterested. There is no particular reason for this but if it has been going on for quite a long time, it’s very likely that there are unresolved matters between you. If that’s the case, you may need to hold a session with your partner to find out how your relationship may be improved. Other times a break can work, travelling, staying apart for a short time. As they say, ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’.
Feeling anxious about how well or badly you are performing is not a gender-based problem, both male and female partners suffer from it. For the men it can result in difficulty to have an erection which springs up a feeling of inadequacy in women. You have to intentionally converse with your partner concerning what he or she likes and dislikes in the bedroom.
Once you have this information under your belt, you will be more confident and your low sex drive days will likely be over…