Cohabitation May Be Dangerous to Your Sex Life

Why cohabitation is dangerous to your sex life.

According to a new study, living with the love of your life before marriage can damage your sex life in the long run. Couples who have cohabited are less happy.

To save their marriage, intending couples will have to reconsider the idea of getting shacked up.  Cohabitation may not be all that it is cracked up to be.

It was discovered that couples who lived together before marriage were beginning to experience loss of drive to have sex after four years of getting married. The ones who had more sex drive (and sex!), were those couples that had maybe a short courting period and didn’t live together before marriage. This study was published in the Sex Research Journal.

Cohabitation decreases sexual fulfillment

After studying about 100 couples, it was also discovered that the couples who cohabited experienced less sexual satisfaction while the ones who did not shack up had more fulfillment sexually.

Cohabitation leads to a higher divorce rate.

Also, the death of sex life is not the only downside of shacking up. According to 2018 research from the Marriage and Family Journal, the couples who live together before marriage have very high chances of getting a divorce roughly five years after the wedding.

But a sexologist, Logan Levkoff, based in New York said that for long-term couples, the future doesn’t entirely spell D-O-O-M.

Sexologist says the results are misleading

Logan when speaking to The Post declared that the results of the study can be quite misleading. That the reason for the seeming stagnancy in the rate of sex is because those couples already had access to sex living together before marriage.

She also warned that statistics show that this doesn’t apply in every case.

Cohabitation brings additional stress

She revealed that the responsibilities and general stresses that come with living together also plays a part. She said all-time access to sex is something new for couples who did not live together before marriage, hence, the excitement and increase in the rate of sex.

The results are quite deceiving, in that numbers do not reveal the entire picture. In the long run, it was discovered that couples who had cohabited for a long time before marriage had a level of consistency in their degree of sexual satisfaction relative to those who courted for a short period. Things started to fade after the first four years.

This may be because if you stay long enough with someone, you better understand the person and get used to being around him/her. Through the fights and stresses that come with living together, the relationship is further strengthened.

She revealed that the sweet phase at the beginning of every relationship is very difficult to replicate if you stay long with someone, but that regardless of the shift, couples can always re-connect and relearn new ways to enjoy themselves.

The key to saving a marriage is not tied to whether you cohabited before marriage or not as studies have shown. If you live together for a long time before marriage, you may have to make effort to sustain your sex life and if you don’t live together before marriage, you may want to slow things down within the next five years of your marriage to better understand your partner.  Cohabitation comes with risks and rewards – you should understand both.

If you do decide to get married, just be happy you aren’t part of this family.