Simple Explanation: A male chastity cage or chastity belt is a device that, in its most simple form, physically locks up the penis preventing it from being used. It is also called a penis cage, cock cage or chastity belt.
Simple Explanation: A male chastity cage or chastity belt is a device that, in its most simple form, physically locks up the penis preventing it from being used. It is also called a penis cage, cock cage or chastity belt.
But male chastity cages, their use, and their loyal following — aren’t that simple to explain. There is much more that goes with a male chastity belt (also called a “cock cage”) than just a padlock.
To be clear, a male chastity cage as I am writing about, contains a lock and prevents most access to the penis. Some people lump other products into “cock cages” but they do so in error as the other items are usually “cock and ball torture” devices rather than penis cages.
Anyone new to role play, fantasy play, or just starting to experiment with bondage, ask the same questions. First is always “WHY?” And second is “How is this enjoyable?”
Locking up the penis and depriving the male of masturbation or orgasms is rooted deep in the twisted history of sex regulations. There are documented drawings of chastity cages and “anti-nocturnal emission devices” from the 16th century.
Why we have had such a fixation with declaring all sex and sexual acts as “bad” and “dangerous” to society is something I will never understand. But we did – and we still do.
Religion and sex, although an interesting use of two words in once sentence, has provided the catalyst for most of the anti-sex sentiments we have experienced. Priests and nuns were supposed to be celibate for life: no sex and no self-pleasure.
Buddhist monks in early days, lived their lives in chastity, and chose to live isolated and secluded from other people and temptations of life and the flesh. Just like everything else, we are learning that the life they professed to living wasn’t sex free. Anyone on Twitter searching for “porn monks” can vouch for that.
Back in the day of adventurers and crusaders, men would go on long voyages of war – leaving their spouse behind to take care of the house and children. As the stories are told, the men didn’t want anyone having sex with their “wimmin”, so they would put them in belts with locks that would only allow urination but not masturbation or intercourse.
The key went with the crusader. I always pondered how long he needed to be gone before the wife called the local locksmith (blacksmith) to remove the lock under the belief that her husband had died in battle.
There is also an “educated” movement that blows my mind – and I’m not talking about the failed abstinence education programs or those who touted purity rings and “virgin until marriage”.
The “#nofap” movement is even worse. Declaring that most men suffer from “porn addiction”, “No Fap” has declared that they help me to “reboot” their sexual desires and to help them to become “masturbation free”.
Yes, they have meetings. “Hi, my name is Dave, and it is has been 430 days since I have masturbated”. All together now: “Hello Dave, you are an idiot, but please keep sending money”.
The theory was to stop men from masturbating and watching porn so they will spend more time being productive.
It is true that I am a non-believer (I’ll take my porn and crank out a big one instead of having a smoke break) – and am shocked that educated people participate in this cult.
I tend to read and post about sex and sexual problems on various forums on a regular basis. I am shocked when I see people talking about their status in the #nofap program. What is that famous quote incorrectly attributed to PT Barnum about “suckers”?
BDSM is about power – being in control and in power of someone else (as a dominant) or surrendering your power to someone else (as a submissive).
Men who choose to participate by wearing chastity cages, do so to surrender their sexual pleasure to their partner. Their partner (whether Mistress or Master) then decide when, if ever, is is allowed to orgasm, have sexual intercourse, or even do something as mundane as cleaning his penis.
What possesses people to want to give up the ability to have sex and orgasms for an extended period of time and actually enjoy this chosen/forced celibacy?
In a way, chastity cages are no different from the chastity belts and harnesses that crusaders allegedly made their wives wear while the men were out fighting. The goal was to keep the wife “loyal” and pure – beholden to her “master”.
One type of male chastity declaration is called “permanent chastity”. In this situation, the submissive male pledges control to his Master or Mistress over the use of his penis for the rest of his life. In other words, he will spend every day forward with his penis locked in a cage.
Although terrifying for me to consider, the submissive is given reprieves for an hour or a day at a time, when the Master or Mistress decides to allow him to participate in sexual intercourse or have an orgasm. Thank you sir, may I have another?
Usually there is no reprieve at the beginning, allowing for the submissive to suffer the most, while learning to accept his fate. It also allows him to experience explosive orgasms once he is allowed.
It takes a very special and committed person to sign over the rights to their penis and sexual satisfaction for the rest of their lives.
In part-time chastity, the couple decide up front the terms and conditions that the submissive will controlled by.
Many of these situations resemble medieval times as the submissive will only be locked in the penis cage while the dominant is away, forcing him to be loyal and beholden just as the crusaders tried to do with their wives.
Having your penis locked up for hours or days is a unique way to demonstrate your loyalty to your sexual partner. Because you can’t stimulate yourself, you find that you build a stronger anticipation and a heightened level of arousal than you would without the cage. Because you can not orgasm or ejaculate, you spend more time imagining the eventual release and power of the explosion you will feel.
Some submissives want to wear the cage because their sex drive is either greater than or less than their dominant, and they choose to allow the dominant to be in control of sex. The cage prevents them from acting on their sex drives, as well as providing them more build up for when they are allowed to go free.
There is a beloved part of dom sex play called “tease and denial” in which the sub is sexually teased unmercifully without allowing him to climax. The teasing may occur on the penis or on other parts of the body. Subs usually are required to please the dom for as long as the dom wants. This activity reminds the sub that sexual pleasure doesn’t apply to him unless he has pleased his dom.
Just like everyone wants to drive a different car, cock cages come in as many different styles. The style of the cage also control what the wearer will experience.
Some cages are designed to provide very uncomfortable pressure on your penis should it become erect – usually because of the unnatural downward angle of the cage.
There are cages that are designed with such a bend that your flaccid penis fits comfortably – but an erection would hurt so much that your body would not continue to allow it.
Some cages have a much larger curve than others, yet all chastity cages should point downward.
The downward slope of the cage can vary from angled away from the body or close to the body. If you are planning to wear it discreetly, you will get the “angled close to the body” style.
By the way, forcing the penis to face downward helps to psychologically remind the wearer that his “erection that points up” is not going to happen.
From a feminization standpoint, men attempting to hide the existence of their penis go a step further and attach a strap which pulls the penis between their legs and toward their anus. This is done every day and permanently causes the penis to bend toward their feet when they get an erection.
Other cages are slight longer than the flaccid penis, because there are small points in the far end of the penis tube, which generate pain if the wearer has an erection while in the cage.
BDSM is not one flavor of “vanilla” – BDSM is more like Baskin-Robbin’s famous “31 flavors”. Because of the variations, explanations are sometimes difficult because different people will choose to live and experience these activities and commitments with different perspectives.
For example, from the perspective of feminization of the submissive, chastity cages provide the submissive with the ways and means to understand what their feminization means. This occurs in both gay and hetero relationships.
Locking up the penis tells the submissive that he will not be providing penetrative sex. The cage does not interfere with access to his anus, reminding him of his position in the relationship.
Some cages have a long tube with a hole in the end, other tubes have slits to allow urine to exit, and other more gentle male chastity belts have a small tip section that swivels open for easy urination.
Unless it is a life-or-death emergency, you will not be standing at a urinal to pee. You are going to go in a stall and sit on the toilet. Wearers must be vigilant and wipe the cage after urination otherwise they will drip in their pants, potentially showing the world they pissed in their pants.
Submissives with cages that do not fit correctly will find urinating to be a miserable experience as they are unable to direct their stream out of the slit as the cage fits wrong. Because of that, the urine will bounce off of the end of the tube and soak the penis and balls.
And that is both a part of the feminization (must sit to pee) and the humiliation (showing other people that you pee on yourself) that excite penis cage users. It also becomes a reminder of their situation because they can see and hear men at the urinal, but they aren’t able to join that club because their Master or Mistress has told them they don’t belong in that club anymore.
Every few weeks, the cage should be removed and both the cage and the penis well cleaned. There are different beliefs about cleaning and I have read many instances where cleaning does not occur for months.
Part of the reasoning that people use as not removing the cage to clean is the perceived effectiveness of showers in removing the dried urine and other leftovers. That still doesn’t allow for a full cleaning, especially if the cage worn more tightly.
When most of us get excited, unless we are sitting in public, we are likely to masturbate if it is convenient and safe. Many of us grew up with masturbation as a relaxation method.
Even if we are not masturbating, most men tend to rub themselves when excited, over their clothes or not. This action is innate – and infants are known to do the same thing.
The cage is like having someone slap your hand and tell you “no”. There is nothing you can do to stroke yourself at that moment. You have no choice but to continue to get or be excited with no way of release. Your only option is to look forward to the time when you are allowed to orgasm.
As I stated above, all you can do is look forward to being able to orgasm because you do not have the control – your “right to sexual enjoyment” has been temporarily taken away.
When you are given permission to remove the cage and experience sexual activities and eventual orgasm/ejaculation, you will find these experiences to be much more intense than a “normal” orgasm.
A male chastity belt often increased your sex drive. That seems counter-intuitive, but cock cage users repeatedly state that they have more arousal and more sexual desire, because they are unable to release their pent up desire and start over as most of us do.
When you have sexual desire and release it through intercourse or masturbation, you then start over at “zero” on the arousal scale. If you aren’t allowed to experience the release, your arousal continues to climb upward on the scale.
More advanced BDSM includes the “training” of your submissive; as well as administering awards, rewards, and punishment.
Masters and Mistresses use training to teach what will be acceptable as good behavior and to punish or discourage what they define as bad behavior. Masturbation and unrestrained sexual satisfaction is usually part of that “bad behavior” that won’t be tolerated.
When you lock your car or your home, it is because it belongs to you and you don’t want anyone else to have access. A big padlock is a sign that “this isn’t yours” – “it is mine”.
A male chastity belt represents that same “ownership” and control. A Master or Mistress is laying claim to the penis, letting everyone else know that it taken and is off limits.
More importantly, it tells the submissive that their dick and their sexual happiness is no longer under their control.
Unless Simon is the name of your Master or Mistress, nothing Simon says actually matters. What does matter is that both of you agree to and understand the creation of a safe word and what a safe word represents.
Those who wear a penis cage for multiple days usually do so without the dominant nearby. The submissive has agreed that removal of the cage without permission will be met with stern punishment.
If there is an unusual circumstance such as a swelling or severe rash that has begun to form, the submissive can contact the dominant and give the explanation and the safe word indicating that it is a serious enough event to warrant removal of the device.
Well, not really, as you can’t visit an adult store and ask to try on the various cock cages to see which one fits. A novel idea, but who would want to try it on after you and 32 other guys have tried it on? Eww.
Penis cages vary in cost from $29 to $200, depending on the material, style, quality and product design.
Quality stainless steel, high quality polycarbonate plastic, titanium metal or top grade silicone are the materials you should be looking for in a toy. Each material has its pluses and minuses.
Plastic is the most common and the most lightweight, and consequently is the cheapest. It is also the easiest to remove in an emergency as simple wire snips will remove the locking mechanism. Plastic doesn’t have the same level of heat transfer as other materials.
The more user friendly and temperature friendly material is silicone, as it warms up faster and is more flexible for movement and other body activity. In case of an emergency, it can be cut off with a good pair of scissors.
Stainless or Titanium are much heavier and bulkier, and provides a better reminder that they are under the control of someone else.
Metal cages are the most difficult to get out of in case of an emergency. I’m guessing that this would add to the humiliation factor that cock cages provide, if one were to get in a car accident and the Emergency Room staff must call the fire department to cut off the penis cage for treatment.
It is best to stay away from leather cock restraints as it is difficult to clean or sterilize as the leather is a very porous material.
Male chastity belts lock with either a padlock (usually made of metal); a built-in locking mechanism (usually made of metal); cinch seals (similar to a wire tie) but has a serial number on it to show whether it has been changed; and also a “disposable tamper padlock”, which is the small padlock-looking device that secures your electric meter. Although more expensive, there are also timer padlocks that allow the sub to be released at a certain time.
You will find that there aren’t a lot of choices when purchasing different size cock cages. Most cages are designed for the “average” guy. Unusually large or small will often find difficulty in find a cock cage that fits well.
THE BIG RING must fit around the top of your scrotum (a fancy word for your nut sack) and around the base of your penis.
There are two types of rings – hinged and not hinged (fixed). Hinged rings are much easier to work with.
It must be loose enough to allow circulation but tight enough to ensure that it won’t fall off. Use a string to measure or a cloth measuring tape like those found at fabric stores.
This ring is binding the top of your nut sack and the base of your penis. Think of it as the retaining ring.
THE PENIS CHAMBER LENGTH is the solid or caged sleeve where your penis is to be placed. Your FLACCID penis. Measure your flaccid penis from the base to the tip and then measure the cock cage to give an estimate if you will fit.
The cage is intended to make erections uncomfortable, telling your body to stop sending blood.
If the chamber is too short, you will be pressing up against the edge, which is not comfortable and can chafe the skin on the head of your penis.
Nighttime erections should be uncomfortable. If you awaken with a painful nighttime erection, take the cage off to prevent penile damage. It is possible that the cage is the wrong size.
If the chamber is too long, you will be pissing on yourself because your urethra is too far from the opening of the penis cage.
As you choose, remember some chambers are solid, which do not allow air flow nor do they allow anything to touch the penis.
Other chambers are true cage designs, kind of like a jail cell, allowing for good ventilation.
THE DIAMETER OF YOUR PENIS when flaccid should be measured. Diameter means the measurement across the top of your flaccid penis.
The chamber should be slightly larger than your penis diameter, to allow air spaces and prevent chafing, but tight enough not to encourage an erection.
In most circumstances, it doesn’t matter whether the sub is circumcised or not, although uncircumcised subs might have more difficulty urinating through the opening if their skin completely covers their urethra.
And for the advanced user … some male chastity belts come with a urethral sound or probe that is inserted into the urethra as part of the lock.
Trim! If you allow your pubic hair to grow, you will experience pulling and pinching of the hair in the cage. If the pain is part of your plan, then go for it – otherwise trim your pubic hair often.
A male chastity belt or cock cage is not for everyone. Chastity play requires open communication and either a submissive male or a male that is to be taught submission.
Always be careful. Read the guides and learn how to use male chastity devices carefully.
Remember, if you really want to keep something of value, LOCK IT UP. Even Beyonce says “put a ring on it”. I wonder if she really meant cock cage but they wouldn’t let her sing about it.
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